The beauty of connecting with strangers

I promised to experiment and share those experiments here. This time I want to share my experiences doing Biodanza.

Els (my wife) and I were looking to do some more things together. Dancing appealed, so we started looking into that. Els found a few Biodanza groups and asked if I was willing to try it.


“a series of exercises and moves that aim to promote self-esteem, the joy of life and the expression of emotions. Lots of bounding around and hugs”

If you like to see it in action, I recommend you watch a short Biodanza video.

I didn’t bother looking it up, so without really understanding what it was, I said yes. After looking at the options, we decided to do a try-out in Helmond on a Wednesday evening.

Els gave me a brief explanation of what I could expect. It sounded a bit flower-power to me. Not something I would have considered doing a few years ago, but I’ve changed.

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Starting out

The session started with all of us in a circle. After a short introduction the first exercise started. Each exercise started with a short explanation and often with a short demonstration too. There were some solo exercises, some in pairs, and some in groups. It was a kind of dancing or just moving to music.

But this description doesn’t begin to capture the effect of Biodanza. It is more than a series of exercises with music. Several things stood out for me.

Being grounded in yourself

Improvisation and balance

Photo by Julia Caesar on Unsplash


It felt special to connect in such a way with complete strangers. We also connected using physical contact like holding hands, fingertips touching and hands on shoulders.

It all felt safe since there was always the possibility to opt out.


Biodanza reminded me how important connection between people is, and how energizing and joyful it can be — even with strangers.

Elly assumed we would want to think it over before deciding if we wanted to continue. But for me it was clear: yes I do want to continue. Els and I have signed up; we’ll continue Biodanza after the autumn holiday.

Father, learner, coach & agilist. I'm passionate about nature and helping people become their best selves.